I have had my share of roommates and honestly I'm FAR from perfect! I can safely say it has been quite the learning experience. So from experiences and my own shortcoming I have compiled a list of my top 3 unwritten rules on how to NOT be that Ass hole roommate.
1) CLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF
Even if the holder of the lease is a ball of mess (hides face while raising hand) still clean up after yourself. If it not already hard to keep up with daily chores nobody wants extra mess added to it. Why not take away any opportunity for arguments. If you happen to pay a small portion of rent or no rent (a friend or family may be helping you during rough times) it doesn't hurt to pick up the slack in manual labor! Cleaning a room, cooking a meal, whatever helps… really!
There was a time where Scott and I had nowhere to go. We would have been willing to sleep in our truck, but the Lord had different plans. Our fr-amily Susan and Glenn opened their doors to us and we made camp on their couches. Our biggest thing was to have our area cleared by the time the house woke up. (Out of sight out of mind) and b3cause we had no money to give, I choose to cook dinner for her and her family. For me cooking for them was the least we can do, to thank them for their hospitality.
I don't think many consider (I know I didn't) how much the little things add up. Toilet paper, light bulbs, dish soap, clothes, detergent, batteries, cleaning products… band aids.
If you are using these things especially in a shared situation, because who really likes labeling? Contribute. If you are at the store consider anything you used whether it was low or if you finished it. RESTOCK! We’ve probably found ourselves on the couches of friends and family maybe twice. Both times as we saved up for a home we attempted to contribute in providing food whether groceries or cooked meals…. It's really the thought that can carry you through
3) Don't touch what ISN'T yours
Being in a generation that when mad likes to destroy things; this is one I was guilty for. I have always been this fight or flight type of person. Id try and run away and avoid situation until I blow up. Our ship was sinking and I was panicking internally. It was really bad timing and things happened between me and my roommate at the time but friend always Trish. I ended up stepping out of my lane and going into her room flipping over this big box of Christmas memories. I'm pretty sure there was more.
Maybe you have already destroyed a friendship by breaking unspoken room mating rules. It happens, clearly I almost did. Well maybe this is your sign that its time to swallow that pride and apologize. Real friends understand that ish happens. Its better to walk this world with clean hands than bad blood and a bad taste left in your mouth. If your having a hard time or need an easy step by step in the art of saying sorry click this link to head on over to my "art of an apology" post where I share my way of apologizing.
Communication is key!
I believe it's the glue to ANY type of relation. Here, I have only covered 3, but I'm sure there are so many more unwritten rules for room mating. Help a friend and Share yours below!
If it be possible, as much as in you is, have peace with all men.
A LITTLE about the Author, Kristina
Thankful for who I AM. I am a woman after God's heart. A wife. A mother of 4 beautiful children. and a lover of all things good and true.. In that order. How do you do?